"Every barometer by which female worth is measured—from the superficial to the life-altering, the appreciative to the punitive—has long been calibrated to “dude,” whether or not those measurements are actually being taken by dudes."
Intelligent op-ed by The New Republic's Rebecca Traister on why women are tired of being judged by the Esquire metric.
To illustrate the point, step into the cultural time machine and fly back to Esquire’s appallingly sexist 1949 attractiveness questionnaire, a caricature of the more subtle ways in which we still evaluate women today.
This Traister essay is all the things.
"He brings the scale of abstraction back down to the level most comfortable for White people: the individual and uncontextualized realm of fair play. It’s the White person’s safety zone. I’m a good person, I’m a fair person, I treat everyone equally, the rules apply to everyone."
— Incognegro (via ninjabikeslut)
"No book is really worth reading at the age of ten which is not equally – and often far more – worth reading at the age of fifty and beyond."
— C.S. Lewis (via feellng)
"Oh my God, what if you wake up some day, and you’re 65, or 75, and you never got your memoir or novel written; or you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy; or you were just so strung out on perfectionism and people-pleasing that you forgot to have a big juicy creative life, of imagination and radical silliness and staring off into space like when you were a kid? It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen."
— Anne Lamott (via pureblyss)
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